QUESTION — My husband and I got into a really big argument recently. He said he feels like I put everything before him — my job, my mom, my friends and THE KIDS! I never thought a man could have a problem with his children coming first. What’s the deal?

ANSWER — He may not have said it the best way, but as a man who speaks his language, sounds to me like he misses you, and that’s a good thing.

In the “advice on men” category, we decided to go straight to the source. Each month, a different “expert” (translated: a plain-old, local, everyday, run-of-the-mill guy) will respond to reader questions. This is not intended to replace your girlfriend’s/mother’s/any-other-female’s advice, but is merely a point of reference from the male species.

Q: I have put on 10 pounds in the last three months, and my boyfriend doesn’t seem attracted to me. Is it because he thinks I’m fat?